It’s not the absence of struggle that makes you successful, it is how you handle it!

Something I’m working on is making sure the person closest to me gets her fair share of my time.  As a family we are in the process of transitioning from a secure government pay check and benefits to the world of business owners.  In order to do that as seamlessly as possible and in a manner that allows me to provide my family the life they deserve requires a lot of my time.  Everyday I’m up at 515 working on stuff for our family business, at 645 I leave for my full time job for the day.  At 4 pm I head to our gym where I have the privilege of coaching and impacting many lives until 9 or 10 pm.  Many nights I get home and have multiple text messages or emails that I would answer because I wanted to make sure people knew I was working hard and would take care of business.  Before I knew it, Andrea was in bed and another day had passed where in pursuit of creating our new life, I did not get a chance to tell her all the things I love about her.  She did not get to hear how much I valued her and I never got to hear about her successes and struggles for the day.

One of the best things we have done as a couple and have learned over our 18 years of marriage is the need to communicate things we are unhappy with instead of burying them for another day.  This has not always been easy and in the process of growing together this has led to many arguments and quite nights.  The end result though has been we have both learned many things about our communication styles, and how we like to receive information.  It is still a work in progress but progress is progress.

So my new strategy is setting business hours for myself!  I will be officially closed after 9 pm to any text messages or emails that are not an emergency from a family member or business partner.  When I get home, the technology that drives us and offers so many opportunities will be put aside and Andrea will know how much I love her, how beautiful she is and I will know all about her day!