1. The Challenge to Find Ourselves

    “The definition of hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been.” - Unknown I love that quote and have referenced it many times during my recent struggles. When I think about it, I find pride and a weird sort of happiness in my situation.  I know that by going through th…Read More

  2. Small Acts

    20 years ago, as a nervous young man, debating on relocating his family to a new state, joining a new agency and starting my career over again, I waited anxiously in a small police department lobby.   As I was sitting there rehearsing the answers to the questions, I anticipated be asked, several of…Read More

  3. The Commitment to Care

    Last week’s blog “Are You Good” got quite a response from many of you and I appreciate it. Some people liked it, others did not, but everyone seemed to have an opinion and was not afraid to share it. That is exactly why I write  and why I enjoy this community so much.  Even if we disagree wh…Read More

  4. We Are Not Always GOOD

    This week while talking with people I care about; I could hear pain in their words and see struggle on their faces and in their body language.  Yet when asked if they need anything I was told “I am GOOD”. I started thinking of how many times I had said the same thing over the course of my life …Read More

  5. Quitting Is an Option

    We usually hear this quote in the reverse, where people tell you quitting is not an option. This is  done to keep you motivated, inspired and to get you to do more. Unfortunately, it is not true. We can always quit, and it is most definitely an option. To be honest, during this transition period in…Read More

  6. What If?

    No matter how hard we try to be our best, do our best and be perfect, someone, somewhere is not going to agree with what we are doing. They are going to have an opinion on how we could do it better or how they would do it if it was them. They have lots of advice on what you should do next, where you…Read More

  7. Didn’t Feel Like Doing It

    This blog is coming out a little later than normal for some of you depending on where you read it, because honestly, I did not feel like writing it. It was not for a lack of ideas or uncertainty on what to say, I knew exactly what I was going to write about. I found myself making excuses, wasting ti…Read More

  8. Wanting More

    Almost everyone we know wants more. More money. More freedom. More time. More meaningful relationships. More, more, more in all aspects of life. Yet shockingly many are unwilling to do MORE. They are unwilling to try something new, to learn a new skill, to join a new group, to take on a new challeng…Read More

  9. Which Voice?

    When things get hard, when life becomes difficult, when our will is being challenged, what do we tell ourselves? Is our inner voice feeding doubt, insecurity, telling us why we cannot do it? Does our mind pull up images of our past failures, our past mistakes, our past shortcomings? Or do we remembe…Read More

  10. What You Once Wished For

    Too much responsibility, not enough responsibility. Too much freedom, not enough freedom. Too much structure, not enough structure. This week I found that many of the things causing me stress or anxiousness, were the very things I wished for and dreamed of a year ago. They were the very things I des…Read More